Comments on: Followed* http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html Shoes. Love. Life. Mon, 06 Feb 2012 04:03:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Elise http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2737 Elise Wed, 16 Mar 2011 20:47:00 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2737 Luckily you are moving to our neighbourhood where I have yet to be followed by creepers! Luckily you are moving to our neighbourhood where I have yet to be followed by creepers!

]]> By: I Heart My Shoes* » Blog Archive » Lighten Up* http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2526 I Heart My Shoes* » Blog Archive » Lighten Up* Tue, 25 Jan 2011 00:34:45 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2526 [...] as I’m approaching the one year anniversary of my experience being followed home by three men, I realize more than ever how woefully unprepared I was to handle myself in such a [...] [...] as I’m approaching the one year anniversary of my experience being followed home by three men, I realize more than ever how woefully unprepared I was to handle myself in such a [...]

]]> By: Maggie http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2514 Maggie Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:23:00 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2514 First - call 9-11 {not now, but in the moment}. You can never be too cautious. Second - read the "The Gift of Fear". Great book. Live by it. Be on guard all the time. Look like you always know where you're going, and don't be polite to jerk-faces. Tell them off while you're dialling 9-11. Always keep a pen & paper with you so you can write down their LP# and descriptions of the creeps. First – call 9-11 {not now, but in the moment}. You can never be too cautious. Second – read the “The Gift of Fear”. Great book. Live by it. Be on guard all the time. Look like you always know where you’re going, and don’t be polite to jerk-faces. Tell them off while you’re dialling 9-11. Always keep a pen & paper with you so you can write down their LP# and descriptions of the creeps.

]]> By: Julie http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2515 Julie Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:23:00 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2515 Oh My! (i know that sounds dorky). Totally agree with everyone. Call the police--they can escort you to your house. Be care... Oh My! (i know that sounds dorky). Totally agree with everyone. Call the police–they can escort you to your house. Be care…

]]> By: Jewels Diva http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2511 Jewels Diva Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:22:00 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2511 First and foremost SOMETHING DID REALLY HAPPEN. THEY STALKED YOU!!! They know WHAT you look like, WHERE you shop, and WHERE you live. The first moment your instincts kicked in you should have said ''listen arseholes, I've got your number plate and I'll call the cops if you don't leave me alone.'' DON'T EVER BE SCARED TO DO OR SAY SOMETHING!!!!! Sometimes, it's standing up to them that shows them you'd be too much hard work. Keep telling them to fuck off, or they'll be dealing with the cops. AND ACTUALLY CALL THE COPS. Had they decided to grab you it would have been easy for them. They could have done whatever they wanted to you and that was their plan. They stalked you fom the chemist to the store to your home. They KNOW where you live. and That WILL cause problems in the future. It doesn't matter how many criminal shows you watch, LEARN FROM THEM. Keep your eyes open at all times, carry a camera to take pics of them the next time it happens, and make notes of the times and places. The cops will want to know. Your husband was right, the second time they popped up you should have called the cops, even if it was to find out what to do, at least they could have talked you through it, and they would've known where you were and what was going on. Even if there was a cop car in the area they could have done a drive by to make sure you were okay and to warn them off. DON'T EVER think NOTHING WILL HAPPEN. How many stories do you need to read and hear about before doing something to protect yourself. And no, I'm not picking on you but I'm very passionate about personal safety and prevention IS better than cure! First and foremost SOMETHING DID REALLY HAPPEN.

THEY STALKED YOU!!!

They know WHAT you look like, WHERE you shop, and WHERE you live.

The first moment your instincts kicked in you should have said ”listen arseholes, I’ve got your number plate and I’ll call the cops if you don’t leave me alone.”

DON’T EVER BE SCARED TO DO OR SAY SOMETHING!!!!!

Sometimes, it’s standing up to them that shows them you’d be too much hard work. Keep telling them to fuck off, or they’ll be dealing with the cops. AND ACTUALLY CALL THE COPS.

Had they decided to grab you it would have been easy for them. They could have done whatever they wanted to you and that was their plan.

They stalked you fom the chemist to the store to your home. They KNOW where you live. and That WILL cause problems in the future.

It doesn’t matter how many criminal shows you watch, LEARN FROM THEM. Keep your eyes open at all times, carry a camera to take pics of them the next time it happens, and make notes of the times and places. The cops will want to know.

Your husband was right, the second time they popped up you should have called the cops, even if it was to find out what to do, at least they could have talked you through it, and they would’ve known where you were and what was going on. Even if there was a cop car in the area they could have done a drive by to make sure you were okay and to warn them off.

DON’T EVER think NOTHING WILL HAPPEN. How many stories do you need to read and hear about before doing something to protect yourself.

And no, I’m not picking on you but I’m very passionate about personal safety and prevention IS better than cure!

]]> By: Date Girl http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2512 Date Girl Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:22:00 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2512 Holy crap! I'm so glad you got away. That is really truly scary. I agree with everyone else, you needed to call the police. I'm surprised you weren't on the phone with Hubster. I would have been calling Match and freaking out if it were me. ACK! But still, in the moment it's hard to know what you'd do. I'm glad you had the common sense not to go past them to get to your apartment, because then they'd definitely know where you live. I was in a grocery store and I had a guy follow me. I didn't realize it at first but he went down every aisle I was in. When I figured it out, I quickly moved to a different aisle, and made sure he wasn't in my line. Then as I was getting ready to pay, he shows up in my aisle, and stands way closer to me than is socially acceptable. I practically ran out of the store and into my car, and called my mom! I was overreacting because he didn't even follow me. I think he was just a weirdo, but still. I watched my rearview mirror the entire drive home. Holy crap! I’m so glad you got away. That is really truly scary. I agree with everyone else, you needed to call the police. I’m surprised you weren’t on the phone with Hubster. I would have been calling Match and freaking out if it were me. ACK! But still, in the moment it’s hard to know what you’d do. I’m glad you had the common sense not to go past them to get to your apartment, because then they’d definitely know where you live.
I was in a grocery store and I had a guy follow me. I didn’t realize it at first but he went down every aisle I was in. When I figured it out, I quickly moved to a different aisle, and made sure he wasn’t in my line. Then as I was getting ready to pay, he shows up in my aisle, and stands way closer to me than is socially acceptable. I practically ran out of the store and into my car, and called my mom! I was overreacting because he didn’t even follow me. I think he was just a weirdo, but still. I watched my rearview mirror the entire drive home.

]]> By: Tulip http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2513 Tulip Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:22:00 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2513 wow. that was sooo scary.... I've been thinking about it since I read yesterday. I thank God you're ok. two thoughts: 1-I think that it's not too late to go to the police - you never know - some other woman might have lodged a complaint, and maybe you can add your info to hers. 2- that's traumatising and scary..... something did happen.. that was a very aggressive action on their part, not physical per se, but still, that's a form of abuse. Thank you for sharing it. Don't be hard on yourself - there's no way to know how we'll respond until we're in the situation (and hindsight is 20/20). I pray for your safety, and peace. (heart) tulip wow. that was sooo scary…. I’ve been thinking about it since I read yesterday. I thank God you’re ok. two thoughts:
1-I think that it’s not too late to go to the police – you never know – some other woman might have lodged a complaint, and maybe you can add your info to hers.
2- that’s traumatising and scary….. something did happen.. that was a very aggressive action on their part, not physical per se, but still, that’s a form of abuse.
Thank you for sharing it. Don’t be hard on yourself – there’s no way to know how we’ll respond until we’re in the situation (and hindsight is 20/20).
I pray for your safety, and peace.
(heart) tulip

]]> By: Veggie Carrie http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2509 Veggie Carrie Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:21:00 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2509 That is scary, it reads like a horror story, especially with their persistence in looking for you. I hope you never see them around again, and they aren't local. I think that you should contact the police, it isn't too late. Glad you are ok anyway! That is scary, it reads like a horror story, especially with their persistence in looking for you. I hope you never see them around again, and they aren’t local. I think that you should contact the police, it isn’t too late. Glad you are ok anyway!

]]> By: CallitaClan http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2510 CallitaClan Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:21:00 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2510 OHMYGOSH! I would still be freaking out. I surely would have called the police. That is so scary! I am glad everything turned out OK. OHMYGOSH! I would still be freaking out. I surely would have called the police. That is so scary! I am glad everything turned out OK.

]]> By: Sun Girl http://blog.iheartmyshoes.com/2010/02/followed.html/comment-page-1#comment-2506 Sun Girl Mon, 24 Jan 2011 23:20:00 +0000 http://iheartmyshoes.com/?p=1716#comment-2506 wow that's certainly a very scary thing. i've had the same thing happen to me in senior's city and it's certainly very unsettling. i hope you never have to go through that again wow that’s certainly a very scary thing. i’ve had the same thing happen to me in senior’s city and it’s certainly very unsettling. i hope you never have to go through that again

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